Why are narcissists so motivated and focused upon being vindictive?

Narcissists can be very, very exhausting.

They think they’re much better than others. They feel entitled to things. They expect you to always conform to their wishes and desires.

And if you don’t, they’re not afraid to manipulate you into feeling and doing EXACTLY what they want from you.

You know, narcissists are so. much. more. than people obsessed with themselves.

It’s so hard to define them actually.

First of all, they’re NOT madly in love with themselves. They don’t spend days in front of the mirror. They don’t want to be the center of attention because they enjoy it.

Actually, all of that behavior is just a mask to hide on what’s really going on the inside.

The reason why they appear so full of themselves is because they are, in fact, VERY much empty.

Not empty of emotion – empty of self-love and self-worth.

Now that I think about it, it’s pretty common to think that narcissist are sociopaths that don’t have any emotion.

The truth is, they DO have emotions and emotional needs that need to be met (just like regular people) but they don’t have the skills – or the emotional maturity – to communicate what they expect out of the other person.

Because after all, having our emotional needs met and meeting the emotional needs of another person is what emotional maturity is all about – that’s how you make friends!

What they do feel strongly is primal emotions – think fear and anger the most.

That’s why they’re know to behave so… so off-putting and aggressive.

They’re scared.

Deep down, most narcissists are drowning in their own insecurities, hence the need to put on a show for the rest of the world. They have a massive void and try to compensate for that void by CONSTANTLY asking for the admiration and attention of others.