What does it look when a Malignant Narcissist begins to unravel?
The
anger and contempt that has always been hidden right under the surface
is no longer 'hidden'. The lies that they have 'denied' now become
'undisputable truths' that welcome 'confrontation'. The rages that used
to be 'avoidable by agreement' are no longer 'avoidable'. The 'veiled'
or 'subtle' insults, putdowns, and projections not only become openly
stated but often become more taunting and boastful as in "yeah, I
said/did that, so what are you going to do about it".
They often lose
all 'pretense' of 'trying to get along' or 'working things out' and
adopt the approach of 'my way or the highway'. Instead of trying to
manipulate to 'get their way', they often resort to threats of 'what
will happen' if they DON'T 'get their way'. They often assume a 'beat
down' approach to whoever they perceive to be the 'cause' of their
'unraveling'.
Their behavior often becomes more erratic to the point
of being a 'scary' kind of unpredictable. Their 'requests' that used to
be manipulated by offering 'rewards' seem to become 'demands'
manipulated by threats.
The 'gloves are off' and the 'mask' is cast
aside as the concessions and behaviors that would once 'appease' them
into putting the mask back on no longer work.
Past 'friends' become
bitter enemies and past enemies become 'friends' and each person's
'status' with them can change without notice or noticeable 'cause'.
Everything and anything that is not in TOTAL admiration of, awe of, or fear of THEM is perceived as 'punishable' slight.
They
have been 'victimized' by being prevented from 'winning' and everybody
around them is usually faced with hell to pay or 'helping' them get what
they want to prevent further 'unraveling'.
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